I have grown up in a middle-class family where the women in the house put other needs first and put their needs last. Sometimes they don’t even bother about their needs or desires; they will be happy by seeing the family happy. My grandmother, my mother, everyone did the same. Growing up, by seeing them, it got seeded in my mind that we have to put other needs first and we should not say no to anything or anyone. Once I got married, I followed the same mantra, and after some period of time, I realized this is not me; it’s a pattern I follow. From my past, from my family, where women think self-love isn’t for us, one day when my daughter was planning, I was sitting and watching her and thought how her life will be if she follows the same pattern, so I thought I should break this: self-love isn’t selfish. If I love myself, I can give the love to others in a better way, so I followed this mantra to change my life.
1. Be selfish to be selfless.
2. Learn to say no
3. Your needs are also important.
4. Follow your passion
5. Self-love is so important.
DO YOU THINK SUCCESS IS NOT FOR YOU?
Most of the time our thought process will be like this. one of my client who i met recently had this stigma on mind that success is not for me because i am not that much potential and the persons she compares herself is who has already doing good and successful to but i can see she is half a way to it but she doesn’t believe that she has this limiting belief on her mind we all usually have this kind of thoughts every time we compare ourselves with others and we under estimate our real power for example we feel becoming a doctor is not easy or becoming a charted accountant is not easy if you ask me nothing comes easy yes its hard but it doenst mean that you can’t achieve it or its impossible to achieve we have evidence that people can become a doctor or a charted accountant can i tell you something when someone can’t achieve something they simply say its hard to achieve and without even trying it we believe it when ever you feel you can’t achieve it CHANGE THE STORY
It’s their story. Don’t believe and settle for less; rewrite a new story and achieve it, and write your own success story.